Hi Josh I've been in my current relationship with my boyfriend for three years. I had a teen crush on him which I shared with him during one of our conversations. We're both mid 40's have been in long term marriages and we're both divorced. I have one son & he has two young adult sons. He has a great career, owns a home & has a luxury vehicle but asks me for financial help all the time. He even went as far to ask me to purchase him a vehicle prior to him getting his new vehicle. I've given him money in the past & loaned him money which he never paid back. I have never been invited not one time to his house or met any of his family & friends. We've hardly been out together on dates, family events or with each other friends prior to pandemic. I'm not needy or nuisance to him but I would like to spend quality time with him sometimes. I'll send short text messages a couple days a week to check in but I don't get the same from him. I've also tried for months at multiple times on different occasions asking him in calm demeanor if we can talk but all he says every time I mention it is "not right now" or "I have a lot going on right now" I treat him with respect & kindness. I say I love you to him & he says "ditto" back to me. This entire relationship seems like a waste of time & energy. This make me feel frustrated, stressed & thinking he doesn't care.
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